Changing Names

Posted by TOM MALANGA at 2/20/2009 5:41 AM
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I just received a card in the mail from the newly-named law firm, Vishnick McGovern Milizio, LLP (formerly Capell Vishnick). Having recently just changed my own name (from "Hroncich" to "Malanga"), I thought I'd share a little about my experience.

Johnny and I were married recently and have a formed our own family. I liked the idea of having us share one name together, to clearly identify our family. As the broader society continues to balk at using the label of "marriage" to same-sex relationships, I have the power to affix my own label to my family. In my case, that label is "Malanga".

I get to use "Malanga" all day long when I answer my phone, mail a letter, or send an email. It’s an easy type of activism and one that I have found to be very empowering. I particularly enjoy when people who I know are uncomfortable with same-sex marriage are now forced to refer to me as "Mr. Malanga."

I'm still getting used to my new name, but I'm extremely happy with it. To me, it marks a new, fresh beginning -- a new life. I hope that my friends at Vishnick McGovern Milizio feel the same way about their new name.

Now if I could only get a logo as cool as theirs...

 

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  • 2/25/2009 3:24 PM Frank wrote:
    Congratulations! I like this idea, it makes more sense than hyphenating two separate names. As for the law firm, are they gay-owned/gay-friendly?
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    1. 3/4/2009 1:27 PM Joe Milizio wrote:
      Gay owned and Gay friendly!
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  • 2/27/2009 10:29 AM Kathleen Caputi wrote:
    Congratulations on your name change, Tom. You make a very good point about the empowerment and activism of being able to change your name. So many straight people take for granted their ability to "flaunt" their relationships. Best of luck.
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  • 2/27/2009 6:25 PM Joe Milizio wrote:
    Dear Mr. Malanga:

    I give you a lot of credit to take the extra step of changing your name. It is clear from your interaction with each other that you and Johnny are truly a family. As the other name changer, I agree that it is an exciting undertaking- it gives a renewed sense of energy and thoughts of the future. My change was only a business name change, so I can only imagine how exciting it is for you, not to mention Johnny.

    You are truly a leader of the LGBT community- Outlook Magazine,the Outlook Awards, your up front and in your face attitude about change; all of these are admired. From one name changer to another- thank you.

    I would be honored to share our logo with you, but I think you'd have to change your name!
    Joe Milizio
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